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Har Mar Superstar Accused of Sexual Misconduct


not surprised. he assaulted someone on stage to applause before.
I saw him a few times live. He's a fantastic performer. But he BERATED a woman in the audience. It got really really uncomfortable. The crowd was split between those of us that were not sure what to do and then the others that were cheering him on.

I, too, am not surprised.
 
9 months late catching up on The Buttertones being a bunch of gross shitheels, after wondering why their music had disappeared from streaming services.

Feels bad.
 
Interesting that the Hall of Fame is keeping his plaque up. I guess if they took it down you it would set precedence for countless players who you'd have to take it down because of so many early baseball players being extremely racist.

Mickey Mantle and Willie Mays were added to the permanently ineligible list after their careers were over because they got jobs as greeters at a casino. MLB's then commissioner banned them for their proximity to gambling.

The next commissioner took them off the permanently ineligible list.

Between those instances both still attended the annual HOF induction ceremonies as currently enshrined members.

The interesting thing from the HOF isn't the plaque. It will be if they continue to invite Alomar to all the events they invite all living hall of famers to.
 
Helping a friend navigate the internal politics of dealing with borderline sexual harassment from a superior is such a pain in the dick.
Never had this from a supervisor, just from a colleague. I was able to mitigate it decently because I work from home and hardly see him. It stopped when I got a job in a new department and he had no real reason to contact me. He still did some creepers IMing for a while, but he stopped when I kept greywalling him--giving him short one or two word answers and being very stand offish, but still business polite.
 
Never had this from a supervisor, just from a colleague. I was able to mitigate it decently because I work from home and hardly see him. It stopped when I got a job in a new department and he had no real reason to contact me. He still did some creepers IMing for a while, but he stopped when I kept greywalling him--giving him short one or two word answers and being very stand offish, but still business polite.
My buddy is dealing with it from his immediate supervisor in his reserve unit. My recommendation to him was that when he addressed it with her to ensure he gave her enough space for plausible deniability. I know you (and every other woman here) know exactly what I’m talking about. “I’m probably just blowing it out of proportion, but these things are making me uncomfortable. Could we ensure our interactions are more professional from here on out?”
 
My buddy is dealing with it from his immediate supervisor in his reserve unit. My recommendation to him was that when he addressed it with her to ensure he gave her enough space for plausible deniability. I know you (and every other woman here) know exactly what I’m talking about. “I’m probably just blowing it out of proportion, but these things are making me uncomfortable. Could we ensure our interactions are more professional from here on out?”
That's a good way to put it. I hope she's receptive to it.
 
My buddy is dealing with it from his immediate supervisor in his reserve unit. My recommendation to him was that when he addressed it with her to ensure he gave her enough space for plausible deniability. I know you (and every other woman here) know exactly what I’m talking about. “I’m probably just blowing it out of proportion, but these things are making me uncomfortable. Could we ensure our interactions are more professional from here on out?”
If they're in the military they should also consult with someone outside of their CoC to, at the very least, make it a known issue. They could clearly state is as their perception of events and that they want the opportunity to address it "in-house". But to get someone aware of the situation in case it goes sideways with the supervisor would be smart to avoid possible retribution. You did say harassment and not assault - still, I would suggest they talk to a person who can take a restricted report and would not be obligated to escalate it and take your friend's control of the situation away from them.
 
If they're in the military they should also consult with someone outside of their CoC to, at the very least, make it a known issue. They could clearly state is as their perception of events and that they want the opportunity to address it "in-house". But to get someone aware of the situation in case it goes sideways with the supervisor would be smart to avoid possible retribution. You did say harassment and not assault - still, I would suggest they talk to a person who can take a restricted report and would not be obligated to escalate it and take your friend's control of the situation away from them
That’s not a bad idea, but it’s not likely to be necessary. He is in the reserves and will be leaving that unit shortly. He actually approached her in the timeframe between the last post an now and appears she was receptive to the message.

"I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to come off like that, I'm just a really open & friendly person. I'll stick to being professional."

To be clear, as he described her behavior to me, it wasn’t harassing in the creepy manner is dudes are so adept at. It was overt flirting which in other contexts might have been ok but the fact is that she is a superior. Plus, they’re both married and he likes being married to his wife. So any sort of behavior of that type can only be described as harassment.

I’m just glad things seem to be clearing up well.

*While I know me talking about this isn’t exactly on topic with the thread, I chose this thread because of the subject matter. I didn’t want to surprise anybody with a sensitive topic like this who may have had issues in the past. With this thread I figured you’re kind a know what you’re getting into with regards to people doing inappropriate things.*
 
Never had this from a supervisor, just from a colleague. I was able to mitigate it decently because I work from home and hardly see him. It stopped when I got a job in a new department and he had no real reason to contact me. He still did some creepers IMing for a while, but he stopped when I kept greywalling him--giving him short one or two word answers and being very stand offish, but still business polite.
Sorry you have to go through that... Its gotta be the worst situation especially at workplace where you have to see the other person every day. I had a friend / coworker go through the same thing with another colleague. I didn't love our boss at that time but I did respect him more after I heard that he had a talk with the other colleague and eventually had him transferred to a different department - especially when it was revealed that several others said they were uncomfortable with his actions.

I also came in to post this - not really news at this point but am actually surprised this happened. Not saying that it shouldn't because from the stories reported, Franco sounds like a dirtbag but these two seemed so close. I wonder what it would take for his brother to do the same.
 
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The school I worked at got this email in 2018:
Hello!

I am reaching out from Drake Bell’s booking team.
You may know him as Drake Parker from Nickelodeon's Drake and Josh or as the voice of the Ultimate Spiderman on Disney XD!

We are currently booking his Spring 2019 schedule.
In the past Drake has performed at many Prom’s and Spring Flings.

We would love to bring Drake to your school for your students!
He has done musical performances as well as speaking engagements w/Q&A's.
This has been quite the treat to bring the students their favorite television star!

Who would be a good contact to discuss setting this up?

Best,
Jaclyn
😳
 
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