If its consensual then there's no problem, outside of your own preconceived beliefs regarding what's acceptable and unacceptable in the world of fetishes.
If she's uncomfortable yet stays for whatever reason it's weird but farrrrrr from rape. Louis is almost completely at fault for not noticing her discomfort and stopping, but the woman still has to realize that by staying when he says "I am going to jerk off. You can stay or you can leave", or by not telling him to not do that shit, she's agreeing to his terms. Regardless of how uncomfortable and powerless they may feel, they're an adult and must make decisions according to their wants and needs.
The situation never should have gotten to a point where the participant is uncomfortable and regretting their decision to stay, but if Louis isnt going to stop then their only option isnt to simply let it happen. They have an option to leave, tell him no, or do any other number of things.
In the event that the participant is a teenager, its understandable that the power dynamic would feel completely on Louis's side. But if the participant is a fully grown adult, then they ought to recognize their own power in the situation and make judgements accordingly.
The victim still deserves the sympathy, but it's disingenuous to act like you cannot be critical of their decisions in situations such as this, especially when the knowledge regarding what someone in their shoes should do in an event like that is highly important and potentially life-saving.
This are the simplest terms I can put this in so I hope you understand. I explain my points further down below, but your mind seems to be set.
Logically its sound that you should just walk out immediately if you dont want it to happen. I understand the emotional importance of how the victim would feel in the situation, but context is incredibly important in determining the severity of it and how much blame should be placed on either party.
I bring up the need for context because it's easy to visualize a scenario in your head far worse than what might have actually occurred, especially when the topic is of gross sexual shit. Context can completely revamp the apparent severity of every crime.
I understand some of you are quick to denounce the angle I take with this simply because I dont place all of the blame on Louis. I place almost all of the blame on him, because as an adult you should know not to willingly or unwillingly make someone uncomfortable. He deserves to get shit for that.
But, assuming the victim was also as an adult, they should know that they aren't powerless in situations like this, regardless of how they may feel.
Bringing awareness to what should've been done by both sides to prevent this from going even further, or happening to begin with, is, in my opinion, the second most important factor in this situation and others like it. Both sides need to know what to do for future reference.
I believe that the victim deserves the sympathy they get, but they shouldn't be talked about as if they are a defenseless child if they're a fully grown adult who was in control of the situation (you may disagree and say that Louis was the tyrant in this event, but just going off of what I've read about how embarrassed he got when his question was met with a "no", I believe he would've immediately stopped and apologized had she told him to stop or gotten up to leave.)
By acting like the power dynamic was completely skewed to the perpetrator's end, you both prevent people from learning what they ought to do when in uncomfortable situations like that, and you dehumanize the perpetrator far more than they may deserve (he is not Bill Cosby in the slightest.)
Dehumanization of people who are completely capable, if not already in the process of becoming better humans is easily the leading cause for cancel culture affecting people who even do as little as made edgy jokes on the internet a decade ago.
While being critical of their behavior is important, rehabilitation is also of importance By dehumanizing someone and making them far easier to build false narratives off of (for the third time, he's not Bill Cosby), you're making it way less likely that they'll actually repair themselves. In fact, they may even get sidetracked from their rehabilitation further thanks to worsening mental health from unwarranted or outright false attacks, and they may possibly even get pushed back into the awful mental state they were in before.
The negative side affects of cancel culture cannot wholly be attributed to cancel culture in every single case, in the same way that the blame cannot be on the victim of a bad sexual encounter in every case. In most cases, the blame lies wholly on the perpetrator, but not always. That's the point I'm really emphasizing.
I'm not blaming every single victim, nor am I encouraging a precedent to blame every single victim. I am, however, discouraging the notion that you cannot look critically at both sides in a scandalous situation like this. Doing so encourages one-sided discussion in a highly complex topic.
You'll also notice that my point in an earlier paragraph, about the difference between how children and adults react to uncomfortable complex situations, is why I originally brought up how the age is important. I was only half expecting to write an essay explaining myself, so I didn't go into detail in that post.
I only know what I've read, so my opinion is completely subject to change if it turned out to be an actual teenager and / or if more shit comes out about Louis being a creep.
The tl;dr is that he was (and maybe still is) a creep, but by exclusively placing the blame on him and denouncing even the slightest notion that the victim could've defused the situation, you're making it easier to dehumanize him and build false narratives about how he is in the same ring as a man who drugged and raped women.
