Needles & Grooves

Sorry to be a downer on here! Just needed to vent into the abyss. Growing old and seeing that some things never get better or change is tough to accept.

No apologies necessary and I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Stay strong ❤

We all have toxic relationships in our lives. Just because she's your parent, doesn't make her less toxic. It's okay to distance yourself.

Very sorry to hear this. Spill all you need to, I've done it here too...and this batch of people is the bestest. Also, #fuckcancer.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I lost my mom to cancer four years ago. I was able to travel to Oregon to spend several days with her at the hospital, while she was still lucid. After I returned home, the tumor in her brain began affecting her comprehension, and then she died. Things were complicated, like many parent-child relationships, but I will never regret trying and I'm grateful for those last days.

So sorry to hear this. Not sure if this helps, but someone once told me that “hurt people hurt people” and that helped me make peace with broken relationships that I’ve tried (and failed) to fix on my own. Like @dansomeone said, I don’t at all regret trying, but I do regret putting unrealistic expectations on myself to change, not just myself, but also the other person.

Oh babe. I'm so sorry, what a mess. No one minds the venting. Mental health and cafe threads are also here for these conversations, if you need. So sorry for the bad news and the manipulation. XO