Needles & Grooves

Depends on the relationship, I think. And the distance. Covid is a reliable excuse. Send an actual plant the recipient can keep in their house with a kindly worded message.

Thanks @debianlinux , it's an old friend that I had been close with for many years. I am looking for a reason to bail, then that will lead to me heaping guilt on myself. I'm guessing I won't enjoy my day whether I go or not.

I skipped out on my maternal grandfather’s funeral this year over distance and COVID. The sense of relief when I sent the plant and knew I was taking the best care of myself possible was palpable. You don’t have to feel guilty for taking care of yourself.

Funerals are for the living to help provide a sense of closure. Do what you need to do for you. Your friend knew how you felt about your relationship. Sorry for your loss.

Very normal to feel that. What would you do if you didn’t feel afraid/anxious? Would you still go?