Haven't been using it as much as I should lately, but my favorite that I've tried is Badger beard balm. I liked the Honest Amish beard balm too. Generally prefer the not too waxy balms over oils personally since it tames the crazy hairs a tiny bit more than oil without "styling." And less likely to drip on my shirt if I'm clumsy!
Always Bearded beard cream is my absolute favorite! Comes in two scents, eucalyptus + lime with distilled pinescotch and bergamot + ylang with distilled cedarwood Beard Oil & Beard Cream